Tips To Help You Improve Your Relationship

 

A healthy relationship is one based on trust and safety (which is why) small gestures are a great way to keep these two things strong. Healthy relationships are sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go. Healthy relationships are built on compromise, no matter how strong your connection is as a couple, maintaining that energy is important without ongoing effort. You and your partner might eventually find yourself stuck in a loop of recurring problems or living in a boring routine that winds up driving you apart. But all of that can be prevented if you look for little ways to improve your relationship every day. 

A few tips work to improve relationships: be a good listener, carve out time together, and enjoy a quality sex life, while these have been proven effective for relationships. You can also branch out to these ways to bond and enhance your relationship continuously, making an effort also means you get to create the type of relationship you want. The tips include: using the ‘i’ phrase, don't attack someone directly, paying attention to small moments, asking a question instead of assuming, communicating throughout the day, sharing when you are feeling down, being present physically, checking in regularly, figuring out your love language, compliment each other, apologize quickly and be a good listener. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a satisfactory exchange.

Use ‘I’ phrases

If you and your partner tend to spiral into toxicity during arguments, leading with the word  ‘you nearly create a defensive gesture. Don’t attack someone directly but use the ‘I’m statement to communicate how you feel. For example, instead of saying, ‘you make me feel bad' try ‘ I feel bad when you do that. Owning your thought and feelings about the situation, you immediately reduce the defensiveness because they aren’t blamed or criticized and from there you can have more productive conversations.

Pay attention to small moments

It is easy to overlook little things like saying good morning to each other, and hugging each other before going to bed, by savoring these moments you will both feel more ‘seen' and ‘appreciated’ which is a vital part of staying connected long-term. These small moments are some of the important parts of any relationship.

Ask questions instead of assuming

It is dangerous to make assumptions about what they are thinking especially during tough moments. Mind reading usually leads to misunderstanding and hurt feelings. No matter how well you think you know your partner. So the next time you aren’t sure what they want or need, ask for clarification, and don’t assume.

Communicate throughout the day

Communicating is the key to any relationship, whether it's sending a quick text, or calling to say ‘hi'. Communicating regularly is key, when you take intentional moments throughout your day to communicate,  this is an effective way to show you care for your partner and that you are thinking of them.

Ask how you can help

If you're getting the sense that your partner is sad or overwhelmed, ask how you can help. This simple question shows you are there for them, support them as well as a willingness to step in to help with whatever they need. 

Share when you are feeling down

Whenever you are feeling down, weak, or upset, make an effort to open up instead of holding it all in. You can take moments of quarrel or doubt and turn them into a bonding experience.

Be present physically 

If you feel like you have gotten satisfied make more of an effort to be physical with your partner. make eye contact and so on, and let them know you’re true to them.

Check-in regularly

Choose a time to have check-in as a couple. Whether it’s daily, weekly, or monthly, use this time to discuss the state of your relationship. All relationships go through ups and downs, during the check-in, you might chat about your problems, triggers, or good things that have happened recently that you'd both like to see more of in the future.

Figure out your love language

Figure out your love language, so that you can better cater to each other’s needs. What can they do- have meaningful conversations to help you feel loved, then figure out what they need. Practicing each other’s love languages, make you stay connected and in tune with each other.

Compliment  each other

Encourage each other to notice the good things and to say them out loud more often. If you want to stay happily together, you will have to focus on the positive instead, keeping an eye out for good things and then offering sincere compliments.

Let go of the past.

What happens in the past doesn't necessarily stay in the past, as a source of many likely arguments and the underlying issue for future ones. But it's difficult to go forward in a relationship when you're still thinking about old fights, problems, or issues that you've already resolved. If you find yourself reflecting on the past, it may be time to take a step back and analyse why. Are you naturally less forgiving, or is there something you can't seem to forgive? By focusing on the source of this recurring feeling, you'll gain more clarity within yourself and about what you want from the relationship with your partner.

Apologize quickly

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship but to keep a relationship strong, both people need to feel that they’ve been heard. If you say or do something hurtful, talk about it ASAP and don’t hesitate to apologize, don’t let hours or days pass- apologize quickly. Own up to what you said or did and be sincere with the apology and be willing to own your mistake to move forward.

Be a good listener

If you can learn to listen in a way that makes another person feel valued and understood, you can build a deeper, stronger connection between you.

These impactful tips above can help you improve your relationships, it’s not personality or similarity that keeps a couple together, it is how the couple interacts, how they speak, and get along with each other in building a relationship together that creates a successful relationship. Even if you have been together for a long time, there are always new ways to make sit stronger and bring you closer. The goal is not to win but to maintain and strengthen the relationship, if you stay focused your relationship and life will become better and happier.