Road Blocks To Forgiveness In Relationship

 

Forgiveness is a complex, mindful process that aims to amend a negative narrative about a person who has hurt us, it also seeks to change the way we feel about that person (from negative to fair or positive). Forgiveness generally means different things to different people. However, it involves the decision to let go of anger or bitterness and letting go of any negative feelings or desire for punishment and thoughts of revenge. By accepting forgiveness, you can also accept peace, hope, gratitude, and joy. Relationships are complicated and require patience, commitment, perseverance, trust and loyalty depending on the relationship. Forgiveness is such an important part of a healthy relationship and it is important to accept that we all have different thoughts and points of view.

You may feel hurt, but forgiveness can lessen its hold on you and help you break free of the control of the person who hurt you. However, there can be times when we find it difficult to feel inspired to engage in the process and experience blocks that keep us stuck in the cycle of forgiveness. There are many valid reasons you may have trouble with forgiveness, including deep hurt, lack of remorse from the person who hurt us, and fears that hurt will occur. A relationship obstacle is any problem that can hinder the progress of a relationship. Feelings and emotions are personal beliefs, and what might be right for you might be improper for someone else. Whereas someone might have a positive intention or opinion on something, it might be unfair to you. It is important to accept that we all have different thoughts and points of view, but sometimes we get stuck behind a roadblock that prevents us from forgiving. These are times in a relationship when the person wants to forgive their partner but cannot because of certain obstacles blocking the path to forgiveness. These barriers include shame, guilt, fear, pride, insecurity, resentment, revenge, and retelling a story.

Shame

Shame is possibly the most difficult and powerful emotion we feel, it's about unworthiness. It's an emotion that pulls us down or makes us feel inadequate. Shame can make you feel like you are the problem, shame seeps into you as a person and makes you feel unworthy. It often happens when couples are feeling frustrated, angry, or separated from each other. Shame makes us feel bad about who we are, and when that happens, we hide.

Guilt

Guilt is as common as mud weighing you down, it feels like we've broken a standard - we feel bad about something we did. These are a few things that are true and become reasons enough to initially complicate and eventually end the relationship. Guilt is feeling like we've done something bad, but not watching our thoughts can lead to shame, which is a bad feeling. It can also affect other areas of your life, including your relationships.

Fear

Fear may not be the current emotion. Fear may not be the most obvious experience for you at first, but underneath it all, you may fear that if you forgive, you will expose yourself to further harm. Fighting anxiety is not something that can be done in a day. Remember that when you or your partner are in the process of healing, the path is not straight and may take some time.

Pride

Pride closes our minds to learning, makes us selfish, and compromises our role as a couple. You can never overcome pride unless you learn acceptance. If you've done something wrong, then admit it not only to your partner but also to yourself. Don't let your pride overwhelm you to resist acceptance or suppress the truth.

Unsettled anger

Being hurt by someone, especially someone you love and trust, can bring anger, sadness, and confusion. Not only does this confuse the relationship, but it also brings negativity that is difficult to erase from a person's mind later, one of the results of pride. All that is required for a relationship to work is a change in your mindset and perception.

Insecurity

Insecurity affects your relationship by creating an imbalance, you become more distracted by what your partner does not provide and instead demand confirmation or proof for your insecurities. Communicate with your partner: Engage in more open communication about your insecurities, how they arise in your relationship, and how you can start working on them. Express how you are feeling and try to share your feelings with your partner without blaming them.

Revenge

Revenge, in particular, is a difficult form of communication, a twisted attempt at repair. We want to "make the person feel" what they made us feel. Why? Although we rarely admit it, the fact is that they might understand. So that they "get" what they did and feel remorse. Revenge is anything we do mentally, verbally, or practically to punish our abuser.

Grudges

Grudges involved negative emotions and the past that hurt so much. They block us from other healthy relationships and keep us from being happy. When dealing with hurtful events or situations, resentment can take root full of resentment, revenge, and bitterness. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, your bitterness or sense of unfairness can destroy you. Resentment begins to establish itself as a problem and is not confronted, which is why explaining your feelings about the situation helps. Decide whether you want to process your feelings internally or talk about them with the other person.

Retelling the story 

When we retell the story of someone's pain or loss, we receive a reward for compassion. We also take a little revenge by making the other person look like the bad person while we remain the victim. Letting go of the past is not always easy, especially when a person has experienced unresolved emotional pain. However, it is very important to break away from the past and improve your mental health in the process.

Forgiveness is not easy, it requires a sincere intention and careful practice over time, but overcoming reluctance and refusal to forgive can be facilitated by understanding this specific fear of forgiveness and implementing strategies to address it. Truly forgiving means laying down resentments and laying down your emotions and feelings. Letting go of the past is not always easy, especially when a person has endured unresolved emotional pain. We tend to underestimate the fact that a healthy relationship is entitled to forgiveness if it doesn't involve some form of violence or abuse. It is therefore important to let go of bitterness and learn to forgive to improve your relationship and give it a chance to grow. Forgiving someone for their mistakes isn't easy as it sounds, but there's no harm in trying. It is important to give and live a peaceful life instead of getting stuck in the trap of negativity. Working to let go of your pain is a great act of courage, it requires humility, patience and great self-love. Sometimes your work is only seen by yourself, it's up to you to decide what you want and do to support yourself and your relationship.